I’m 51 and I love to write, and have had journals and do have one now, but my handwriting is terrible and in this age we type a lot, so coming back to this old blog will probably somewhat replace my journaling. I like to read entries that I made when I was in my 30s and coming to terms with my sexuality in total and my life going forward.

Loving the outdoors is my main thing.  I love to bike and try not to drive everyday due to being a full-on climate change anxiety person, and generally driven to move. I have just learned to climb a little. I have been a hiker since I was 34. I love the foothills and the mountains. I have also sea kayaked and done some play in water too

I love to cook, listen to music, sing and laugh. I provide mental health services, teach in higher ed, and test a bit for adults and sometimes younger students with disabilities.

I am seeking balance. I have it tattooed on my right bicep.

I write so I can remember what occurs and this creative process helps me stay centered. This blog is more of a diary, so feel free to read it if you want a look into the life of a lesbian who is permanently off the relationship escalator, and who won’t compromise. I have been married for 17-years total and divorced twice.

I’ve done dating before along the gamut: coffee, hook-ups, try to go on several with the same woman for weeks or a month, illicit making out wherever, and then have typically stayed with women with whom we weren’t “right.”  I’m a bit long-suffering and hardworking so I just keep trying to make things work when I love.  I’ve gotten to a point now that I’m not repeating any of the same mistakes, so I just want to move forward with compromise and don’t want ugly breakups ever again.

My coming out affair occurred in 2007; although, I had been with women as a high school and a college student in the stylings of being completely covert and sneaking about with two long term girlfriends. I was on a long road to acceptance and working through internalized homophobia. Now, I don’t want think that romantic relationships by design are permanent and want to experience lots of different activities with cool women.

I’m adaptable, smart, and funny.

I have an amazing circle of friends and am blessed with them as my family. We bond over music, sing, walk, hike, and share tons of meals together. I LOVE TO EAT.

My cousin lives about half-an-hour from me, and when we’re together, we can talk like we did when we were babies. I am an orphan in my nuclear family as my brother was killed the day before I turned 14, and my Dad died in 2020 and my Mom in 2021.  My divorce from the woman who was the love of my life at the time occurred in 2022.  I’m just dealing with it now in my own individual therapy.

I have an 19-year-old son. We live in the West with my dog and three cats. Thank you for reading and know that I appreciate your comments and likes.

If you want to have a conversation without commenting, feel free to email me at rmtomboy@balance17.com

You can find my entries on the right side of this page by title.