Today was a good day. I had lunch with a former colleague and took my son to a bus station so he could see his girlfriend. He and I biked two miles this morning and did 20-minutes of cardio as well. I just didn’t climb today, which is a small bummer because my friend went with her son. I’ll go next week, but they’ll be in Belize. I’m not doing Zumba tomorrow. I’m hiking 5-7 miles with my son’s godmother.

At the house, there is so much progress. The tile is completed in the bathroom and the painters shellacked the walls and repainted after putting plastic on the carpet. Now, it’s fixing the carpet so it looks cleaner on the stairs and doing a deep clean. The company is nearly done with the backyard landscaping and my son and I pulled all the weeds up front and I took out the Chinese Elms which had volunteered everywhere. I also mowed. I think that the folks across the street will regret turning down my low offer. It’s going to have lots of curb appeal and the inside will look great!

Last night I was getting some thinly veiled criticism at worst and definitely some challenges regarding to my never co-habiting or merging finances again. I tried to explain the concepts in relationship anarchy and two of the women at our dinner party got stuck on how you de-escalate with someone. I think that, for me, anyway I will always make clear that I won’t live with anyone or have money decisions that are collaborative. It’s funny because I’m super generous. I’d happily pay for hotel rooms and the like. I just don’t want anything day-to-day. If you keep that consistent and don’t deviate from it, then you’d never have need for a separate conversation about de-escalation. Another woman said that she couldn’t be emotionally intimate with more than one person. I told her that I have larger amounts of emotional intimacy with friends anyway and that my best friend knows more about me than my two ex-spouses combined. It doesn’t have to make sense to everyone. It’s my life.

At lunch today I told my former colleague about the lack of understanding and she was shocked. She said, “I would have defended you!” She asked if they knew any truly happy marriages and I told her one woman had never been married, the other had worked through lots of problems in counseling, and that my best friend loves her husband and jokes about spending all of his money. She basically gave that look that meant, “Case in point.”

I’m so excited for this week!!! I have a small group discussion with one group that I belong to and perhaps dinner with the author and another meet up as well. I have the normal stuff with guitar and our last game of bowling too. Incidentally, I got a turkey+ (4 strikes) in my third game. That was quite the ego boost. There is a good vibe right now and I’m grateful.