We tend to reflect on what didn’t go right when we end a relationship. I think that it is fairly natural to sort through things that occurred in our previous love relationships and then be able to list hosts of reasons that they didn’t work based on interactions. I think that my last girl was deliberately provocative, and not forthcoming with what was irritating her, so it was easier for her to lash out. I really liked this picture–I think that it is accurate too:
I think that is why I blog about it, because it will be an aspect of my self-of-therapist activities and help me get rid of some of the negativity that I swallowed up instead of saying, “I’m having trouble putting up with this criticism.” I don’t wish that I had done that, because I think just letting her go forward with rage and reckless abandon is probably how she is when she is under duress, and that is not someone with whom I want to build a life.