Dating apps are mostly torture. You have people that you see IRL and realize after three dates that they’re not likely friendship material.

The last woman that I had three dates with doesn’t stop talking. Not for a second. You have to interrupt her with simple attending behaviors.

I had a date with a woman who was love bombing to a giant degree and her car smelled of strong marijuana.

Then, I have had those ghosting and cancelling ones that never happen.

The latter are in the category that I shall dub “super fun.”

I started thinking that would be the way with this woman.

I can’t give her a name yet. And we have certainly had to work on our communication. But, it’s getting there and I will be so incredibly sad if we don’t have our video call on Monday. We have plans to be together for the 31st and I want to make those via the video call.

I want some magic. I want more than 3-4 hours in a row spent together in manner in which it can just organically flow. I want us to decide if we venture out of a hotel room when we wake up or if we don’t. I want to snuggle and talk.

First things first.

She had asked me after we had a phone call on the 5th of August and I was making her laugh if I was trying to steal her heart? I texted, “No!” and quoted the author again that it’s much better to walk into love. She told me it was working.

In the meantime, I want a lovely video call, and then a decently long date in person. For the pursuit of magic I am certainly willing to break my no kiss on the first date thing.

That’s been 14-years!

I don’t think that I mentioned that she lives in my state much nearer to to other states than to my city.

Now, I am left wondering if she and I have any potential magic.

Magic, like chemistry, is mutually fed. It has a rhythm and a cadence. I really want it. I’d like it to be with this woman.

What do you do when you’re in the holding pattern? Waiting for the moment is a test of patience.