I had gone on a date with a 36-year-old last August. We had excellent chemistry and she definitely liked me. Then the age difference settled in for me and I realized too that I have some issues and also frankly preferences with size. For awhile the latter fucked me up a little bit, and then I realized that she and I could be good friends.

She turned 37 on Thursday so last night I had her over for a birthday dinner of chicken piccata, which I make a lot for friends, saffron rice and baked cauliflower with garlic and olive oil. I was so glad to make her a birthday dinner because her primary partner had a tragic loss about 10-days ago and is out of state now. I don’t know when she’ll be back either, which impacts my friend and also her wife whom she lives with.

This friend is MI.

She’s fantastic.

She’s Solo Poly.

She recently had a date with a woman who she really likes and asked her her birthday, which is in September. MI told me last night that even when she doesn’t know someone is a Virgo, she dates and is attracted to Virgos. Polarity is such a fascinating concept in astrology. I want to study it more. Our conversation spurred me to look up her Sun-Moon combination, which I did.

It was accurate.

What was super cool was that she is Water-Earth-Air (Ascendent or Rising Sign) and I am Earth-Water-Air. That and us being in polarity explains a lot of our compatibility. We both like each other. I had spent NYE with her this year and we enjoyed that too.

I’m interested most at this stage of my life–meaning having lived more days than I have left–in being around people who are interesting and with whom I can be my whole self. I live so far outside of heteronormative parameters, work in a field that is conventional, and have mostly married friends with kids that when I’m socializing now, I would like to be with people wherein being my whole self is not just tolerated but celebrated.