So, she did call me to talk through a situation. She also rapid fired a whole bunch of questions at me about what’s been going on and I just described my day and my weekend plans. She told me that she wanted to talk to me about a professional question and said that she’d “love to pick my brain,” but as we talked, it became obvious that she had weird expectations. I can definitely consult about behavior problems and what I recommend is empirically validated and will work.
What I can’t do is ignore the elephant in the room and that is that she expects an instant friendship. That is bizarre. We don’t have anything and she has never honored a f2f chat with me so we can end things on a better note. She said about two-weeks ago that it is because she would want to have sex with me. Well, sex is consensual and I would not want to have it with her. She is not honest or consistent, and after we hung up she texted several times that she just wanted a friend. I told her that she has tons of friends and we are undefined. I also told her that she asked for a professional consult, that she never has seen me in a month because she’s “too busy,” and that I have no idea what we are and what she wants from me.
She’ll contact me again. I won’t text back. I will ask for a phone time and directly ask her what her expectations are. I will also ask her again if she’s in love with me and would go to counseling. If those questions are no, then we can take a year’s worth of space and then after that time has elapsed, if she wants to contact me, she can. Just like these past few weeks, I won’t be contacting her again. I haven’t and I won’t. I do wonder if I’m in love with her anymore. Last night was bizarre and there is no way that I would even want to touch her when I’m the covert “friend” who she wanted to catch up with under the guise of a professional question. I mean what I say and say what I mean and expect that from my friends and want that in my love relationship.