My new friend that I met on PinkCupid is having strange exchanges with a woman whom she’d matched on HER. I think that the woman is a scammer. My friend thinks that all that matters is that she doesn’t want to engage in a long distance relationship. It doesn’t matter really, and seems to point to the fact that dating apps are pretty awful generally.

Recently, when I was talking to her on the phone I said that I had three matches whom I’d spoken to on the phone who I never met. I told her that I even had one video call with one of the three.

Then I realized that was wrong.

Tesoro and I had 5 phone calls. And two were over an hour long and super entertaining.

Then there was the woman from CA, FL, Boston, Seattle, UT, and NY. All of these women had heavy accents–including Tesoro, but hers was educated and refined. I have visuals of them working with another woman to find marks. In January, Scorpio told me that there are offices in Eastern Europe where women report to work to mine for romance. Regardless, all of them want money. This effort is their occupation.

I’m curious if the woman who matched with my friend will ask for money for a flight to see my friend. I know that my friend won’t pay it.

I haven’t logged on HER since the 25th of January.

I have absolutely no bandwidth to go on a date with anyone other than Scorpio at the moment.

That will shift sometime, and it could be a very long time too.

I’m not going to put an expiration date on monogamy.

I’ll date when I want to and have talked through my intentions with Scorpio.

Regardless, PinkCupid uses your pictures forever.

I have evidence because there is a woman who is on my page every time that I log in and under “Seeking” where the time marker says “Two Years Ago.” She’s not going to log back on.

I took all of my pictures off of the site. I also have my profile tag line as “Ask.” That used to say, “Direct, Passionate and Honest (Profile is too.). I don’t have much under “Member Overview,” and have mostly the information about not moving to another app and liking calls under ‘my match criteria “Seeking.” I did, however, leave information in one section.

My Perfect Match:

There is no perfection! And love is abundant. I like tall, athletic and feminine women. And I crave banter and intellectual rapport. I don’t think that defaults make sense in general. Love should be intentionally walked into by both parties and relationships should not be confining or controlled. I met a wonderful woman via another app in January and she and I are going strong.

Do you think that dating apps are predatory? Did the landscape of people on dating apps changed after the economy began to suffer? How does one meet romantic partners post AI?