It occurred to me yesterday when I was telling her some details about my day that I’m the one who is really different in this relationship. She has reminded me that we are just dating, well, then that’s what I’ll show up for and it’s not much really. I have dated–lots. That means that we will probably talk right before most weekends and just see each other and that’s it. The thing is that we talked everyday for six-months, and then it got weird, so we began the dance of what 7th graders tend to do and that’s the break-up/make-up cycle and then I was completely fed up with it Memorial Day, so I bounced.
At that point (May), I was surprised that it was completely over and I was definitely listening to her HeyTells a bunch the following morning, but unfortunately, I wanted to leave a message for a friend and it was on her name in the menu, so I accidentally left her a blank one and that is how we began talking again. I asked her to go to counseling. She answered that question f2f six-weeks later and when the answer was, “No,” I had a fling with a semi-friend–who is actually too intense for me–and then when she found out about it, she FLIPPED. That was odd, because when she wouldn’t go to counseling, I figured that we were done forever. I had two dates that Sunday. That knowledge caused her to take me off her social media and not talk to me for 12-hours and then she demanded to see me. I think that is the only reason that she had sex with me, tbh. “If I can’t have you, I don’t want anyone to.” Our sex life is good, so if we can have sex once or twice a month that is fine by me.
We would need counseling though. She is finalizing the property divisions between her and her ex-partner. She was with her I think for about 6-years, and now, 7-years later, they are finally splitting their properties and the older children are really out of the picture. That is a long divorce. I don’t move that slow. I do wait and observe, but not for 7-years.
I don’t think that she will go to couples’ counseling with me in January. I think that is why she told me that I should see my psychologist when I was venting about work. I am currently quite professionally dissatisfied. I know what I need to do though, and will do it. I don’t need to pay money to see my psychologist like she suggested. In fact, like a guy, she is too quick with advice most of the time, so I probably won’t tell her what’s going on for me. Doesn’t effect dating much, but would effect a partnership. We couldn’t have a partnership anyway without some direct work with a therapist, so I will probably just date her for awhile. I do need to get my doctorate done as a first priority, so when I can see her, great. That’s really it for me. I’m no different than where I came to on Memorial Day