Oh, my girl and I have had some nice exchanges, messages, and direct conversation this week! It’s amazing to be this connected to a woman and that is brand new for me. I’m no stranger to when I’m dating someone to watching my phone and being encouraged when she calls or texts, but with her, I can sense her and we have synchronistic channellings of each other. It’s odd to be with a girl who you are so much alike and sometimes that makes the sparks fly when we disagree or just have a different timing or less intense reaction. It’s completely bizarre for me to be with a girl more intense than me too.
Again, I used to be like her. Friends called me a hothead and now I’m more into waiting and then engaging when I feel solid and know what I’m going to say. I have cultivated a lot of patience and it serves my son and I well. I’m also patient with her. She gets down because I forget some things or repeat something that I’ve said. Like I’ve held for a long time, she has high standards. I know that my standards were not lowered, it was just that I had resigned myself to thinking that it was not in my path to have a partner. Now, I’ve revised my list. Revisions occur because I’ve found my partner.
1. I want someone who is willing to gamble and shake it up with me.
2. #1. Includes building a life with me in a place that is new for both of us.
3. Making new paths together and valuing the close ones who matter.
4. Listening fully and openly to concerns that I have.
5. Realizing that I’m the one who she wants.
These are the intentions that I’ve been putting out for a week solid. They have resulted in some good interchanges coming to fruition. We are really on the same page right now. I don’t want her to think about the future per se, but just love time with me and be open to us as a possibility. We are honestly building our future currently. The only thing I think that I need to practice now is saying, “Shh… Let’s be still and enjoy. There is now, and we are each other’s future. Let’s work that out in the fall when our calendar has completely turned together.” I’m feeling a new energy, and dammit, I LIKE it.