I get it now, but it took all this time away and my holding that her ability to withdraw emotionally from me would not work ever again. I want to maintain a connection with her, and don’t want her to pull away when she is scared or when she feels like she has to control a situation. The only thing that I think that wigs her out right now is that I slept with a girl when we were separated this summer. I also had a couple of other dates too. I don’t think that she understands that I just take what she says to me at face value, so if we are broken up, I’ll do whatever. Ultimately, I’m looking for a partner and one to raise my son with in the end.
I knew that I was in trouble when she got out of her driveway and that was more than a month ago. My attraction to her is intense and consuming, which is why I didn’t want to see her. So, we talked and laughed and she said some funny stuff to me. I kept turning red, which is actually completely ridiculous when you have been with a woman for eight months, but she still really does it for me. At one point she said, “How many times are you going to get into your pantry when you blush?” She also made some jokes about being dead inside and I told her that I was glad that there was no formaldehyde anywhere around because I just wanted us to be genuine with one another. So, we were. It was easy.
I do understand that this venture won’t be all easy, but I don’t want any of that back and forth bullshit that we had. So, I just lay low and wait until she wants to connect. With all the shit that goes on in her life, I’m glad that she does make as much time for me as she does, and it’s a lot. We had a nice weekend together this weekend. It was a date on Friday and a little connection plus time with her son on Saturday. That is good enough for me. I’m just going to see how things play out this year, and then go from there.
I still love our sex life. I still think that she is funny and sexy. I love her eyes. Her body feels perfect in my hands. I very much like that she thinks that I’m funny, a great lover, and that I’m smart and intellectually stimulate her.