One foot forward and moving toward is what I want. I will value having my doctorate done and my head clearer. I will get my proposal defended this year before it ends.
I’m given quite a bit of pause how I don’t care to pursue any girls at all and how they tend to annoy me or not be quite what I’m looking for in terms of dating. I am not chasing anyone or I am making things work that won’t work past some sex or tolerating what are simply some incompatibilities. Pink says, “I don’t believe in soul mates, happy endings or the one,” and I would have always tended to agree with that. However, there were some unique and earth moving things that happened for three straight months last fall that also give me a great deal of pause. Maybe those soul-level connections are not meant to last.
That is why I have come to wanting stability in addition to sexy and smart. That works for me, because except for getting irritated, I think that I have both feet on the ground. I’m just looking for space from my ex right now, and I think that if it comes to it, she would stop contacting me if I asked her to. Right now doesn’t feel like the right time because it was just her father’s bday, she is recovering from complex surgery, and it’s now the holiday season. If it gets too emotional for me, I’ll tell her to cease. However, my line is firm about not driving up there. That I won’t do.
My psychologist says, “Chop wood. Carry water.” For me, it’s last night trying to complete three sets, and giving up, drinking a beer and eating cheese puffs. I felt sad and laid in my bed and was mindful about crunching. I miss our old times, and know that they don’t exist anymore. I told myself it has passed. That made sleeping easier. It’s what I’ve got right now.