Defense

I wish that I wasn’t thinking about my drawbacks hiding in the bushes.

I am though.

Saying “honeymoon phase” is grossly oversimplified.

I think that with intentionality, you can orchestrate exciting and passionate moments even when you’ve been with someone for a year.

When she was probably slightly altered Scorpio whispered in my ear, “I want to travel with you forever!”

I think that the business of staying together is mostly couched in fighting well.

I would like to learn to fight well.

I worked on that a ton with my ex-GF.

We handled conflict well until we reached an impasse.

I don’t think that she was accountable for her role in barely meeting my needs physically and emotionally.

I think too that because I’m so sensitive, we weren’t a good match for each other ultimately.

Scorpio is just as sensitive as I am.

Scorpio is physically motivated.

Scorpio is an emotional creature.

How do you fight?

2 thoughts on “Defense

  1. we try to communicate till we get to the fight part. I prefer the when you do x it makes me feel y. no blame. no past problems. ask myself if this is something that will matter 6 months from now. limit I told you so. choose my battles. don’t nag.

    • TomBoy's avatar TomBoy says:

      That seems healthy… I know people are just who they are.

      At work we had a frame that we taught them. I don’t like x. I feel x. It creates x impact. My hope is that my (time, etc ) will be honored going forward.

      I’m trying to listen and fully yet quickly summarize the emotions and impact that are shared with me. I also want a partner who will stick through fights with me so we can be stronger together.

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