It is though.

And, I think it’s my webcam.

I had a good videoconference date on Tuesday night. That night is almost always off the table ten months out of the year, so I made it for 8:30 my time with a woman in Seattle.

We had reciprocal conversation. We went deep.

She had a GORGEOUS smile and was charming. Sweet and kind. Seemed to have her life on lock. And she was neutral about seeing me face-to-face. I knew it when I didn’t get any feedback for a couple of days.

It finally came in my inbox rather than through a call.

I was told that she found me down to earth, smart, curious, open, and easy to talk to, and that she enjoyed getting to know me. She spoke very warmly about the conversation and shared that this truly was not about anything missing in me or anything “wrong” with the connection itself. Ultimately, she shared that the hesitation came more from her own life positioning than from the date. In short: this was much more about timing and personal bandwidth than lack of appreciation.

The only thing that I can remember her saying to me in the first few minutes of our conversation was that she had written her bio “ages ago.” I was wondering why she still had it posted and agreed to a date?

Anyway, I don’t love my webcam. It zeroes in on my pores and age lines… The guy who took my passport picture in the fall told me not to smile because it makes people look like the Joker.

So, when I can’t get a phone call–being honest here that my voice is likely one of the best assets that I have–I’ll play with the Logi Options software that I’ve just downloaded.

3 dates to go.