One time I saw a girl in a bar and we locked eyes and a killer, but unmistakable I-don’t-care-that-all-I-am-is-trouble smile spread across her face. Having told my buddy that night who is now my roommate that my intention was to have a one-night stand, I was very glad to have had that greeting when she walked in. That is chemistry. I’m actually very adept at talking to a girl and knowing if we will have excellent sex. I guess that when I don’t feel it, I don’t try, but I know when it will be sparks and fireworks.
You can’t really confuse sexual chemistry with long-term qualities though. If you don’t have similar values and interests, you can actually wind up only really connecting in the bedroom. I was talking to a friend on the phone today and told her that how you show up in the world also has much bearing on how long you can comfortably date another person. I guess that as I begin my new round of screening with girls, I need to remember who I am.