I don’t mean I give, but I’m pretty much a top, so I guess it has double-meanings. I can go out on a date again with the child. My friends keep telling me that she is not a child, but 28 does freak me out, but I’ll just get over it. I’ve seen her for over a year, and have talked to her since last July, so it fits my “know well” thing. Plus, she wrote, “How about a juicy mango?” on my status last week. Hello? I talked to her yesterday and we had ease in conversation and then when I got to my practicum site I said, “Can I take you out to dinner next Saturday night?” and she said, “That sounds good! I’ll check my schedule and get back to you.” We’ll go to a trendy spot in a gentrified area just north and west of downtown, and I’ll tell her a start time, so we have two cars. If the convo is good, I’ll walk her to her car and hug her again. If she grabs my bicep again, I’ll finally kiss her. I’ve known her eight months. So, I do have a girl I can date.
Bette HeyTelled yesterday morning, and at the end of it she said, “Are we going to be able to be friends?” So, I just called her. I talked to her about various things and then she posed the question again, and I said, “You know, _____ , I originally just wanted to be amiable when I could feel your new girl’s energy and realized that you couldn’t say such mean things to me unprovoked if there wasn’t another moving right in. But now after seeing you, it gets convoluted. I just wanted us to be cool on the off chance that we see each other out and about, but now… So, I just need to take time. I’m quick at work, and in fact, my colleagues always say, ‘There is ______ , on a mission!” but in my personal life I am not like that. I rely on observations and need lots of them to make decisions. Last night was just too convoluted.”
Then she said, “Well, the ball is really in your court, and you’ll need to contact me.” I said, “_____ , that could be years.” And she said that was ok. About a half an hour later she apologized for ever hurting me and indicated that she really meant it. Then she texted again and said that she loves me and that I still have a significant piece of her heart. I texted, “Thank you. I love you too.” And I do. I fell completely in love with her and she was a critical part of my journey.
However, I really need to date. I don’t know if it’s feasible to date a whole bunch of women, because I am away from my house a minimum of 11-hours daily getting things done. I don’t have time or a method to meet lots of girls. However, I’m NOT having sex next weekend. I think that the end of the month is a good idea for that. Because then it has been nearly four-months since I have, and that is always a good marker for me to rid another girl’s energy from me. I don’t want her to feel Bette when we do connect if it proceeds that way. I know that she wants to, and that she wanted to make out on the street when we had our date in August. Slow build up this month seems good. She is not Peter Pan either and has always told me the truth. We should be good. At least it’s a fun prospect, and I’ll just get over her age.
Such a strange path. My shrink is right, and you certainly cannot bend the river. I don’t want to, and am ready to float down, while I can appreciate and avoid fervor or rapids. Canoe seems good.