For years, I would say, “Everyone has baggage, but the art of relationship is finding your matching set.” However, now that I’m pushing 40, it’s not really a “matching set” per se, but it’s complementary pairing. Sounds easy, but after you’ve had several dating experiences, you can see that it is not as simple as it sounds.
Given the imperfections and, in fact, rather annoying things that all of us tend to do, it’s exceptional when those flaws are not “deal breakers.” Some things just simply go fine together. Other things cause sparks and friction like you wouldn’t believe. Actually, I think that you do (probably) believe it or have experienced it.
I tend toward odd worries and don’t always trust that things will eventually work themselves out. I also put up with far too much for too long, because I figure, relationships are hard. Accepting my journey has helped.
I think that there is a complimentary set for most of us. I also think that we tend to seek out qualities that are either part of us, or those that we have somewhere deep in the recesses of what is our true selves. Even when a relationship ends, we can reflect on what changed for us, note growth, and learn to seek again what made us stay or alter the way in which we see things.