Maybe it’s harder to put the nail in the coffin rather than have a woman tell you to fuck off. I don’t know… I can tell you that after her texting me over and over and starting it all at 7, and telling me that she would be relentless until I get it, put me in the most messed state that I have ever been in to date. Makes my coming out affair, which also meant that I had to tell the world that I’m gay, and switching jobs, single parenting, and living alone except for my 21-month-old all within 4-months seem manageable. I can’t stop crying and it’s totally fucked when what her texts and phone calls have yielded is that she still is in love with me and this will be the choice that I forever regret.
I have no idea. I just can’t navigate the push-pull anymore. I want someone into me and open with me when I trigger her. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m abrasive and straightforward. I need a girl who asks me questions or puts the halt on me right away. I feel like she tends to just use things later anyway. It’s like an attorney or detective who is looking for evidentiary support for why she wins. I don’t want a competition. I just want to work with a partner. I sure as hell don’t want to feel like this much longer, but I won’t be taking her back.
From another blog: in relationship, I want Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation and Affection.
Yeah, that is a good list. With her I would have settled for the acceptance piece and being honest about her feelings. She always had to “process” which meant that she was gearing up for hours or a day to tell me how fucked up I am.