In 2024 I met one of my ex-GFs at a Polyamorous Women’s Discussion Group. She attended it in support of her best friend.

Her best friend was sleeping with the group leader’s husband. For a time, he was her boyfriend.

Per my ex-GF, the group leader vetoed her best friend.

Veto.

I had a falling out with the group leader altogether. She blew up a date one night that I was on with my ex-GF. Eventually, my ex-GF made me write a letter to her about the situation. I wasn’t going to apologize and didn’t. I wrote the letter because my GF at the time said that I was creating friction in the friend group.

Yesterday I saw her at a conference and the group leader told me everything going on in her life and asked nothing about me. Things never change.

She did say, however, that one of her husband’s partners was no longer friends with my ex-GF or my ex-GF’s best friend. She said that they weren’t treating her well. I’m friendly with this particular partner. Scorpio and I had a double date with her and the former group leader’s husband in April.

I took the author out to dinner last night and told her the story.

A GF is vetoed by a wife.

The GF befriends one of the husband’s partners.

Eventually, the GF and her best friend (my ex-GF) vetoes the partner.

The author told me that this experience is common.

Makes me happy that I get along with my metamour and that my GF only has he and I atm.