I wrote to the girl from church yesterday and did so, as I wrote, more for myself than anything else. I had no agenda doing it, but rather wanted her to know about what really was bad timing on our part. We had a nice first date. We talked fairly easily and were good just walking loops around the park–I think that total we spent about three-hours together, which is a long first date. I think that it was easier because she and I had seen each other and also sat together several times.
I told her the truth. I explained that ours was definitely a favorite of my first dates, and I have had LOTS of dates. I also explained that my ex came down the following week, and then I found myself back in the same pattern, but after two months, I realized that I was the one who had changed and she hadn’t. I told her that I don’t desire a friendship with her, but on the off-chance that we would run into each other, I’d like to be civil. About five-years ago, I told a friend, “There are twelve lesbians in ______ , and they all talk.” I repeated that for sometime, and then just decided to increase the number each time someone said, “______ , there are more than that!” I’m only up to 51. This is a cliquey and small community.
I still don’t know if she’ll go out with me. She seems to hang with the fifty-ish women from church. But, honestly, I always call it the Church O’ Boyz. There just aren’t many women there period. Also, she has had tons of stress as of late because she has been unable to find employment, and belongs to the “no expectations, no disappointments” school. I don’t go there. I have hope and trust in my journey and know that it leads me exactly where I need to be everyday.
My cold is better. I did wake up very early coughing, but rested in bed for a few and now am typing. I have the coolest thing in the world right now, but haven’t turned it on yet this morning. It’s a little wireless speaker with a BIG sound. I stream Pandora from my phone on Bluetooth and have music nearly throughout my house. It’s even better than those Bose systems and was a fifth of the price. I want one more speaker so I can always have music everywhere in my 50s ranch. I don’t have carpet upstairs so the hardwoods help carry sound. I love it. I’m a music freak.
All is quiet on the ex front. Yay. I think that it helps to write an answer to a question in the subject of an email and then attach only a link in the body. That is my comfort zone. Hey, I’m creepy, negative, and selfish and have zero compassion, so might as well be that way. Speaking of which, I have to tell one of my best friends that I don’t want her to move in in June. Yikes. It would ruin our friendship. I’m taking her for grass-fed burgers and brews tonight. There is live music too if I can stay up. That gets really hard for me when I have two beers and I have not been able to exercise. I just have to be honest with her; although, I do know that she needs to decrease her bills by $300.
Seems like I’m being honest with everyone. Good path, that. I honestly have thought a lot about the way that the girl from church pulled me closer to her so our abdomens were pressed together when we embraced after our date in August. She grabbed my arm too and ran her hand down it. I’m bigger now than I was in the summer too, so she may want to do that again. Also, sometimes she has played with my hair in church. I am going early today, but when I do see her again at a later service, I’m going to flirt. Hell, I’m single.
I wonder if there will be some nice girls at the 5Ks in April. Who knows? However, I draw the line at on-line shit. I had a couple of girls from there in 2008 – 09, but they were not women that I would have ever organically run into, so. One was a cowgirl who lived in a neighboring state. She was awesome in bed, but not a great kisser. The other one was a damn Gemini who did all the back and forth mindfuck stuff. I let that one completely go and then three-months later she wanted to do a summit with me. WTF? Sounds like Bette though. Hmm…
I know that she is out there. I’d love to go to dinner with the girl from church, but the ball is in her court given that when we had a date, I was like a cautionary tale. I apologized for that, and told her that I wish her peace, prosperity, and a path to her ONE.