Career after retirement:
This morning I got up to enroll in the first course that I’m taking in a 5 class sequence. I’m on a wait list though 🫤 There is a chance that I can’t start until NEXT fall because I think that I may have to stop teaching on Tuesday nights for one semester. (I’ve taught almost exclusively on Tuesday nights for 11-years at one university.) I’ll have to talk to my supervising professor who made a post-doc experience for me in the winter of 2015 to see if she’ll allow me to change the night of the week for one semester only. One class that I will need to take for my candidacy application is only taught 3:30 – 6 on Tuesday nights. I’m so lucky that my Boss will let me flex my work hours and leave early for a semester. There is no way that if I had my old day job I could do that. And my old Boss would’ve said no.
Last two GFxs:
- We had mismatched libidos. When I said that we don’t belong together in March of 2025, I should’ve stuck to it.
- We didn’t have healthy conflict. I need to ask specifically at date #4 with any woman if she yells during conflicts. I can’t tolerate that at all. Because it’s a no fly zone, I need to ask if I can take a break from the conflict until she is able to speak without a raised voice.
Dating Pool:
I remain in the database with the matchmaking firm as a “Matchable Member.” My first year was comped. I have my first date today which is in person and now has been moved by the match again. It’s close to lunch time. It’s nice to have plans regardless. I’ve not had an in person date with a new woman since May 16th. I’m going to bring my most charming and funny self to this date regardless if I’m attracted to her in the slightest. It’s nice to have something to do today.
Pride:
I went to a friend’s house for a pre-party on Friday night last week. I got concerned whether or not they were going to go out at all and didn’t wind up leaving their house until after 11 pm. I went to a party with DJs with a friend on Saturday night and we stayed all afternoon until the evening. On Sunday I went with MI to the parade and we listened to some music and watched the coolest and most creative drag performance that I’d ever seen.
Mental Health:
I feel balanced. I have an appointment with my new psychologist tomorrow. I’m awarded two more sessions for free after this one and then I’ll see him monthly out-of-pocket. I need some support with my dating life generally. Breakups are never fun.
Return 
honestly I know very few people who haven’t yelled during real.conflict. I get that there’s healthy ways to argue and things should be talked about prior, but there’s not a person I know who hasn’t tried the healthy ways and is met with non responsiveness and then yells a little. people with children comes to mind. it shouldn’t be your go to, but if someone said they didn’t yell sometimes during conflict I’d say they were lying or repressing. but that’s my thoughts.
Hahahaha.
Totally get it. With my most recent ex, it was her go to. And it was super disturbing that when I said, “What I find unsettling is that I’m not entitled to my feelings being hurt,” and she screamed back, “You bet you’re not entitled to your feelings!” She literally can’t discuss things initially and always wants to deal with differences right away.
that’s tough
Thank you. I think that she has to have all the power and always control the narrative.
I was deeply in love with her. It sucks that the only thing that she can do when she’s met with an answer she doesn’t like or a feeling state that she doesn’t understand is scream.